Managing the Slippery Rocks of Life


When you come across a sign on a mountain trailhead that says DANGEROUSLY STEEP,

it’s best to do an about-face, especially if you are me: a 53-year-old woman who fondly remembers that one year when she was physically fit.

By the way, that’s actually me in the photo, hiking in Colorado. My husband likes to take numerous photos of me struggling up rocky inclines. It’s his hobby. But the photo represents a different ordeal, um, hike.

Unfortunately, on the day of the DANGEROUSLY STEEP hike, my husband and I simply ignored the sign and followed a large, chatty group and their dogs past the sign and down the trail. When the man leading the group asked us if we were okay with steep trails, Jeff and I communicated with a glance: If they can handle it, so can we.

Unfortunately, we ignored two facts:

  1. In Colorado, steep means something completely different than in Wisconsin, our former place of residence.
  2. The word dangerous means “involving possible injury, harm or death.”

Fast forward 20 minutes: the group ahead of us has disappeared and so has the trail. We can’t find any trail markers on the trees. Still, we forged ahead, even if the ahead had vanished.

Our search for a path through the trees following the stream down the mountain led us to another sign.

This time it said: Slippery When Wet.

I didn’t let that sign stop me, either. In an effort to find the trail, I ended up sliding down a wet, moss-covered slab of rock that perched dangerously over a stream.

Did I mention that the stream was mostly vertical?  Please note the words dangerously and vertical. After sitting there in a daze for a while, listening to the water rush over all manner of jagged rock below me, I realized that I needed to climb back up that slippery slab. It was the only way out of my predicament.

I grabbed a tree root growing from the side of the hill but failed to get a grip on the rock with my wet, mucky tennis shoes. That’s when I started to worry. My husband stretched out his hand from above, but there was no way I was going to grab it. If I did, my legs would dangle and I’d probably pull him off the edge with me.

I had absolutely no idea of what to do. And so I prayed.

Then it came to me. I took off my shoes, tied the laces together and draped them around my neck. Unlike the mud-covered soles of my Columbia Omni-Grips, my bare feet clung to the rock beneath the slime. I made it easily to the top, and we found the trail.

Most of us don’t come up against slippery slabs of rock every day, but we face so many other trials in life — times when we can’t find the trail markers, when we wander the wrong way, ignore all the signs of danger or simply don’t know what to do.

As I was praying lately about a few slippery areas in my own life, that rock I climbed came to mind, as did Psalm 18. Not recalling the content of that particular Psalm, I opened my Bible and read:

The Lord is my rock … and my deliverer … he made my feet like the feet of a deer and set me secure on the heights … You gave me a wide place for my steps and my feet did not slip.

The Lord was reminding me that underneath the moss and slime of life, the Rock is still there. I simply need to cling to Him, like my feet clung to the rock near the stream. And He will even equip me with the strength to do so (Psalm 18:32).

Are you clinging to the Rock today?


Six-Inch Heels and Other Stumbling Blocks

The pink, six-inch heels in the photo are not mine.

They were formerly the property of a young woman whose car was recently repossessed. Yet they stand as the latest testament to my uncanny ability to stumble and fall. Let me explain.

My son, Ben, works at a car repossession business. Once a certain time has elapsed, the content of repossessed cars is up for grabs by the employees. That’s why Ben came home from work the other day and handed me the pink shoes and a half-used bottle of Victoria’s Secret “Such a Flirt” fragrant mist.

He’s such a generous guy, and he was pleased to present his mother with this gift to brighten her day. It reminded me of presents proffered up with pride long ago, like the Christmas ornament made of noodles or the tin-can pencil holder.

Now I have to say that using the sugary sweet “Such a Flirt” body spray when you’re a 53-year-old woman who’s been married for 29 years is just wrong. Yet here I was, spraying the stuff on my wrists and noting the “8” stamped on the bottom of the hot-pink heels.

Hmmm. They would fit my feet, if not my stage of life, which is definitely not the “age 21, wear thong underwear and six-inch heels” stage. I’m more the “middle-aged, wear bigger and bigger underwear and have a bad back so need to wear flats” stage. But just for fun, I tried prancing around the living room with the heels on. My prancing ended on the first step as I wobbled from my lofty pink perch and hit the carpet, much to my son’s delight.

I’m an expert at falling down. Too bad I can’t make a living at it. I’ve walked smack-dab into walls and posts in stores. I’ve tripped over steps numerous times, even while I was telling someone how I tripped over this very step and fell on the concrete while a crowd of co-workers watched in horror.

Recently after having dinner at a friend’s house, I picked up my empty dinner plate and pushed back my chair. As I started to stand up, I managed to catch my shoe on the carpet and fell right on my rear end. But I didn’t break the dishes!

A few months ago, I was sliding around on a friend’s slick wood floor for fun and ended up in a horizontal position, staring at the ceiling. Last week I ran into the couch as I walked through my own living room. How bad is that?

I’m great at stumbling in other ways, too. I didn’t fall on my behind yesterday, but I did let being unemployed ruin my day. I let myself feel like a loser — a washed-up has-been with no future — even though God has told me that I’m beloved, treasured, known, and prayed for. I know that the Lord has a plan for me, even if I can’t see it. But some days my spirit seems to forget that. If you’re stumbling like me, remember what God says to us in Psalm 37:23-25:

The Lord makes firm the steps of the one who delights in him; though he may stumble, he will not fall, for the Lord upholds him with his hand.

This morning, after my stumble-of-a-day yesterday, I opened the daily Bible verse that’s sent to my email. It was Jeremiah 29:11.

For I know the plans I have for you, declares the LORD, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.

I’m so thankful that the Lord offers me His hand and keeps me steady when I stumble.

How about you? Do you need to ask God for His steady hand today?

Laughing at the Days to Come

She can laugh at the days to come.  (Proverbs 31:25)

When I started writing this blog, there were three unemployed people living in my house—me, my husband, and our twenty-three-year-old son. Doesn’t sound like a recipe for laughter, does it?

But God has shown me that this is precisely the time when laughter is most important. I can laugh at the days to come because Jesus is with me.

Don’t get me wrong: I’m not putting pressure on myself—or you—to be the Proverbs 31 woman. That particular proverb represents an ideal woman; it was originally a list of attributes for young men to consider as they looked for a wife.

It’s not a description of one amazing woman who broke the mold back in biblical times, so say “Whew” with me and pass me a piece of your chocolate bar. No, I’m not superwoman. And either are you. But God has shown me that I can live out verse 25. And so can you.

In my mind, a woman who can laugh at the days to come doesn’t sweat what the future may bring, because she trusts that Jesus Christ has her back. She knows that Jesus is interceding, supporting, loving, and comforting her; she realizes that Christ can provide for her in every way possible.

This mind-set sounds easy enough to manage when life is rolling smoothly along.

But then your son becomes addicted to drugs and eventually dies. Your daughter joins a cult. You and your husband lose your jobs in the same week. And finally, a loved one sends you an email with the definitions of the words queer and transman, which is a good thing since you have no clue what those words mean.

I’ve faced all this and more during a recent two-year period, so I’ve had some time to consider just how much I trust Jesus. Thankfully, I experienced a soul-rocking crisis earlier in my life, so this time I knew the best way to handle the storms.

I hang on tightly to Jesus’ robe, even when doubt tries to loosen my grip on His garment. I pour out my heart to Him—all the sorrow, confusion, anger—and He accepts it and gives me peace, understanding, and comfort. When I think there’s no hope, Jesus says, “Hope in me alone.” And I do.

Of course I’m not the only one dealing with tough stuff. Right now I have a friend undergoing chemotherapy, one dealing with chronic pain, and yet another who was hurt in a major way by members of her church.

These friends are great women of faith: the one with cancer feels God’s peace and praises Him; the one with chronic pain still holds tightly to her faith, sends cards to others to encourage them, and gives generously to those in need; the one betrayed by believers has supported me in prayer for the last fourteen months as I faced one loss and trial after another.

Like me, these women aren’t perfect, but they don’t have to be! They’ve learned they can “laugh at the days to come” simply because God is Emmanuel—God is with us, always.

So enjoy the laughter that comes from total freedom—the freedom of being held by our Father, whose love is everlasting and ever-present. You, too, can be a woman who laughs at the days to come even as you walk through the tough stuff of life. You can be this woman if you allow Jesus to lead and carry you.

Frankly, Jesus has the tough job in this carrying deal (especially since I gained an extra ten pounds).

Are you ready to laugh with the Lord? I am!

Our mouths were filled with laughter, our tongues with songs of joy. Then it was said among the nations, “The Lord has done great things for them.”  The Lord has done great things for us, and we are filled with joy.      Psalm 126:2-3